I knew and fully accepted the challenge that faced me a year and a half ago when I married my sweetheart, Susan. She is a physician, serving as the medical director of a growing house call program for the elderly. You can imagine the mountain range of demands that settle upon her daily; demands that keep us apart more than twelve hours each day. Frustrating!
She begins her day around seven AM or before, depending on early meetings, and gets home each evening hopefully by seven PM; many nights later. If she can afford the time, we will have a light dinner together, then family devotions, including prayer, Bible reading and maybe a brief study of a few verses. Then, back to patient notes or charts or faxes or whatever is demanding Sue’s attention. Along with all this she is typically on call five 24 hour shifts each week, receiving calls about patient needs. Bed is rarely before ten, some nights much later. Most weekends are only slightly better. There seems to be no relief.
Please understand, I’m thankful for every minute God allows me to share with my wife. But at times the repeated monotony of her demanding schedule, the ever-present mountain of work, and our being apart frustrates exceedingly. Husbands, have you ever felt this way? Wives, how about you?
When we first married, Susan and I prayed for the Lord to show us how to find time for one another. We knew we would only have “snippets” of private time together so we asked the Lord to make our “snippets” wonderfully special. And He has answered in ways more beautiful than either of us ever imagined. Most of our bonding times of intimacy have become spontaneous and therefore, even more special and precious. At our ages, especially for me, we are a picture of young newlyweds. 😉
You see, I believed, back in the beginning of this marriage, that God had sent me to Susan to love her and to be there to support her. And with the Lord’s help, I am endeavoring to do just that. But what I have found in all this mad dashing about is that I need her as much as she needs me, if not more. I’ve found that I value and appreciate her more every day. And at times I just simply need to be with her, even if only to hold her hand and talk.
But you see, God knew all this. He is blessing us with a wonderful life together in the midst of the heavy schedule that keeps my sweetie running. And we believe the reason we are enjoying each other so much, the reason we are bonding as one, is because Jesus has taught us to ask Him to take care of the details; IE: the schedules, the work load, the attitudes, the intimacy, everything. We ask Him for every need no matter how personal, we share every burden with Him no matter how heavy or light, and yes, we ask Him to teach us how to love each other. It was His plan to bring us together and He has been so very good.
So what is the point of this little talk? Simply this. No matter how busy you are, or not, no matter how frustrated you become over any situation in your marriage, take everything to the Lord. Ask Him and then believe Him to work out every challenge, every problem, every conflict for you so that your marriage can be more amazing than you ever dreamed.
If you haven’t given your marriage to the Lord, you have no idea just how wonderful and overflowing with love He can make it for you.
Lord bless you all until next time,
Carl and Sue Peters
Normally I close my blogs with a brief sample of writing from one of my books but I recently heard a story I’m sure you will enjoy. The name has been changed to protect the crafty senior citizen!
A nursing-home patient, one who has mild dementia, refused to take her medications one day. Let’s call her Mabel. The head nurse at the facility was called and tried every trick in the book, to no avail. One tablet at a time with water. NO! (Mabel’s lips were clenched tight.) Maybe with juice? NO! Milk. NO! With coffee? ABSOLUTELY NOT!
What next? The staff huddled to discuss this frustrating situation. One nurse suggested feeding her pudding or applesauce with mashed up pills mixed in. Mabel watched every move but held out with stolid resistance! The morning was slipping by, the medications were a must.
Finally Mabel’s daughter was called in from home. After arriving at the nursing home she had a talk with her mother. But when she asked Mom to open her mouth for the first tablet, no deal! The daughter talked, begged, demanded, pleaded, and joked. Finally, after a long struggle, she had gotten Mabel to swallow each of her meds.
Daughter sat exhausted by Mother’s side. “Wow! I’m glad that’s over, Mom.”
Mabel smiled sweetly and replied, “Yes, now that that’s over what else can we do for fun!”
Addendum: Novels by Carl Peters, available on Amazon Kindle, above right:
Victory – Heroes are sometimes found in the most unusual places. Victory is the short story about a boy’s daydreams and how he learned “the secret formula of how to make his dreams come true” … from a most unusual friend. Victory is an animated fantasy adventure for the whole family.
The Tallest Angel – The inspirational family adventure novel based on the short story, Victory. This family story takes over where Victory ends, that is, AFTER RICHIE WAKES UP from his dream adventure! A fun story, part real life, part Disney-like animated fantasy, woven together to surely charm the kid in each of us.
Solo – A twenty-four year old Christian woman, Joy, is tempted to stray from her Lord. But through a series of unique, heaven-sent events she is befriended by Paul, an older man who steps in as the father figure Joy has not had for nine years. As their father – daughter friendship develops, Paul gives Joy much-needed wholesome Christian advice about life and marriage.
Transgression – Definitely an edgy John Grisham type novel. The story of a sinful preacher and the terrible consequences his sin brings upon his church family. The amazing part of this story is how the Lord eventually brings a silver lining out of the darkest storm clouds. This story is powerful, at times overwhelming, yet gentle in its application of God’s truths.