At times in this blog I will be honest and “tell it like it is!” In other words, I will tell highlights of negative things that happen between Sue and I as we continue to adjust to a marriage of two “slightly” older people whom the Lord brought together with strong personalities and some “baggage” from our previous lives. This story is about one of those negative times. Yesterday Susan came home from her practice a little earlier than usual so she could spend the evening with me. When she carves out time like this for us, we normally enjoy dinner together, chat and laugh, read devotions together from Charles Spurgeon or listen to a sermon by John MacArthur, or perhaps just read the Bible. Sue was still on call for the evening but that doesn’t bother me. So I married a doctor; I take it in stride.
After a stretched time on the phone with a patient’s family, Sue returned to the living room and decided she wanted to watch the CBS news. I, on the other hand, had already read the news and seen the videos on my favorite internet conservative news station, WND.com. I am certainly no liberal and had already formed strong opinions about the negotiations with Iran, as well as the other news stories.
Most of the time Susan agrees with me on my conservative, Christian perspective on world events but this time, when I began to tell her what I thought, she instead told me what she thought. She sighed deeply, rolled those brown Italian eyes, and asked me to please be quiet while she listened.
Well, of course my manly pride was instantly bruised and, being me, I sulked into my deep and silent, “submarine” mode.
Long story short, we were not happy campers. (You sleep in your tent and I’ll sleep in mine!) I stayed submerged until this morning, when we hugged and talked more reasonably about my interruption.
Now, earlier I had asked the Lord’s forgiveness over how I had acted and asked Him to bring the situation around. In other words, I asked Him to rescue me from being a bottom dweller and help me to act like a real person again. In most cases He’s the only one who can do that with me.
“God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble.” Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you. (1 Peter 5:5-7. NKJV.)
After Sue left for work the Lord spoke more to me about our incident and I sent a series of texts to her, as follows:
ILYSVM (I love you so very much), young woman! You are my Sweetheart, a precious gift from our Lord. We have already discussed our conflict of last evening but to put the outcome in a more easily understood way, let me ask you several questions about the dumb problem we had. First, why are we so easily tripped by insignificant, meaningless things? After all it’s not an everyday happening, yet when we do bump into each other and sparks fly, Satan seems to be right there, waiting to make it worse. Why, at those times, do we become so easily offended by literally nothing? Whatever happened to our early resolve to laugh over the sparks that fly when we bump into each other?
Why do we not, rather, run to each other’s arms, laugh about it, and thereby strengthen the bond of love God has given us? More than that, why do we not immediately run to the Lord Himself when we reach a flash point?
We must remember that we are like two large, older ships that were sailing in opposite directions and the Lord brought us together and is now building one vessel out of both of these ships. And He’s doing this as we now travel together in the same direction.
Sue texted back:
ILYSVM 2! Your questions are good ones; probably ‘rhetorical’ but I’ll take a stab at answering by saying it is because we are both still sinners (… while on this earth. We won’t be perfect ’till we get to heaven!) Therefore we both fall back into our selfish ways once in a while. Yes, we OUGHT to run to the Lord much more quickly during those rare times when the sparks fly. With His help, this is exactly what we will do from now on! IRDLY!
So where has this story taken us? First, we are all human, even we Christians. We ain’t perfect yet, just forgiven. We all need the Lord’s help in this life. Second, if you are an older couple that has come together like Sue and me (with or without a blended family) you need a lot of help simply to adjust to sailing your life together. Take every joy or sorrow, however major or minor, to the Lord. He knows how to help. And last, if you do not yet know the Lord Jesus as your personal Savior, go alone and talk to Him about it … Today!
Lord bless you all,
Carl and Susan Peters