On January 12 Susan and I celebrated our sixth wedding anniversary. From time to time one of our friends will ask, in so many words, “So, how’s that ‘unending honeymoon’ thing working out for you guys?” and we’ll have to admit that we’ve had our share of sparks, (mildly translated as ‘misunderstandings’ or ‘over reactions.’) Okay, I admit, the sparks are mostly on my part!
But the straight, short, sweet answer is, “It’s been wonderful and it gets better every day.” From my perspective, as the Christian husband, my Susan is the most precious Christian wife in the entire world. Sue is, simply put, an amazing Valentine gift given by our Lord!
Every day I send numerous texts to her. One of my favorites has three emojis in a row. The first is a donkey. (that’s me!) The second is a big red heart, (meaning love). The last is a Princess, (meaning Sue.) Donkey Loves Princess! Of course, Susan tells me that it is not a donkey, it is a Noble Steed! She’s seen Shrek too many times.
But, you see, the longer we live together and learn about one another; sharing our strengths, our weaknesses, the things that have made us one, and especially those wonderful qualities that Christ has embedded in our hearts and lives that make us more like Him . . . the more true, pure love we grow for each other.
So, what is the secret to our Unending Honeymoon? The three of us … Our Lord, Jesus, Susan and Carl, living our honeymoon together, every day.
With that, I am going to include a blog I wrote some time ago titled, Forever!
When a young couple comes together in marriage they usually envision that their union will be “forever!” The napkins on the table by the wedding cake might softly say, “Forever Yours,” and the cake itself might whisper, “Together Forever.” Many times that sugar-sweet-frosting sentiment is then kept hidden away in the freezer at 40 below for years.
A few young women, when planning their wedding — those who feel that their marriage bliss will be purer, richer, more wonderful than normal — might even go so far as to claim the superlatives, “Everlasting” or even “Eternal!”
“Everlasting Love, Forever Yours, Eternal Bliss, Together Forever!” These sweet thoughts bring tears of joy but later, many times sooner than planned, those tears turn to bitter-sweet reality. Life does not dance in snow-white slippers on the top of a wedding cake nor does it continue beyond the boundaries of time. Human marriages, even the best marriages, do not nor can they continue beyond this earthly life. Many marriages, sad to say, do not survive past two or three calendars, let alone “Forever!”
At the other end of the spectrum many elderly couples, and even some who have lost their husband or wife earlier in life, believe that someday, after death, they will be reunited with that loved one in heaven and continue their marriage there, “forever.”
But the Bible teaches otherwise:
A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. (1 Corinthians 7:39. ESV.)
And Jesus said to them, “The sons of this age marry and are given in marriage, but those who are considered worthy to attain to that age and to the resurrection from the dead neither marry nor are given in marriage, for they cannot die anymore, because they are equal to angels and are sons of God, being sons of the resurrection. (Luke 20:34 – 36. ESV.)
You see, eternity is the home of Almighty God. He is not bound by time or place. At the time of death, the soul of a Christian is taken to heaven to be with the Lord forever, no longer under the constraints of time.
A Christian is any person on earth who believes that Jesus Christ died on Calvary’s cross in their place, as their substitute, to pay the penalty for their sins. This person is one who then turns from their sin to Jesus and welcomes Him into their life as Savior and Lord.
Several months ago, the Lord brought time, eternity, marriage and love into sharp focus for me. I rethought the fact that right now, here on earth, is the only time Susan and I will have together as husband and wife. Ever! It is that one unique period, never to be continued or repeated, where our Lord has given us a relationship no one else alive can share or experience. We alone have been blessed with this mere wink of an eye, this twinkle of starlight in the midst of all eternity, united as one, to live together and love each other as God desires. To glorify and honor our Lord in heaven.
Yes, once in heaven Susan and I will be good friends, better friends than we ever could have been here on earth, I’m sure. (And we will never argue there!) We will be a sister and brother in the heavenly family of God – but never again husband and wife! Through this realization, the Spirit of Jesus convicted me that He has given us this brief time together to build and to enjoy a wonderful relationship filled with love, respect and understanding. And He is here with us, helping us and teaching us to do just that.
Christian friends, if you are husband and wife you, also, are experiencing your own unique time together. Make the most of it, it can never be repeated after this life.
Lord bless and keep,
Carl and Sue
PS: Happy Valentine’s Day.